Buddha was walking into the city market one day and near the city entrance an old bitter man was sitting on a box glaring at Buddha, who carried a bright smile on his face. At the sight of him this old man started cursing Buddha up and down, left right and center, telling him how pretentious he was, how much better he thought he was and how he did nothing worthy of the air he breathed in this world. But Buddha simply smiled and kept on walking to the market to get what he needed.
The Next day Buddha returned to the market and once again that old man was there, this time his cursingintensified, screaming and yelling at Buddha as he walked by, cursing his mother, cursing his father and everyone else in his life.
This went on for weeks and finally, as the Buddha was leaving the market, the man approached him:
“Buddha, every day you come here smiling and every day I curse your name, I curse your family and everything you believe in” the old man says ” but every day you enter this city with a smile knowing that I await you with my harsh tongue, and everyday you leave through the same entrance with that same smile. I know by speaking to you now that you are not deaf, why do you keep on smiling while I do nothing but scream the worst things I can think of to your face?”.
Buddha, with the same smile still on his face looks at the old man and asks “If I were to bring you a gift tomorrow morning all wrapped up in a beautiful sash would you accept it?” to which the old man replies “Absolutely not, I would take nothing from the likes of you!”.
To which the Buddha replies “Well after offering you this gift and after you’ve refused it to whom does my gift belong?”
“It would still belong to you of course” answers the old man.
“And so the same goes with your anger when you offer it to me and I choose not to accept it”
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned” ~ The Buddha
“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves” ~ Confucius